I DON’T LIKE WINNING
There's something that I never understood about myself: seems that I don't like to win. Not that I don't enjoy being good at what I do, or scoring achievements. I do, quite a bit, but for some reason, I’ve never been competitive. As a result, I don't enjoy games. I have played stuff occasionally over the years, from sports through board games to computer games, but the only stuff I enjoyed were single player computer games, and even that has waned by age 16 or so.
My ex-wife
was a huge fan of games, and one of our main contentions over the years was her
constant attempt to make me play with her. Once a year or so, I would
capitulate (until 2016, when I finally got her to find some friends to play
with instead of me), but I hated it and was just zombiying my way through the
game, often times playing intentionally suboptimal to lose and get it over
with.
What I still
don't know is WHY. What is it that makes me not only dislike the games, but
feel no interest in winning over someone else, or derive pleasure from it. It’s
not that I have no aspirations or interest in general – on the contrary. Many
people would categorize me as an overachiever. In my 48 years of life, I’ve
pursued both wide fields of interest, and significant career growth. In my
career, I started as a simple computer technician, and worked my way up to
being a program-manager for two monumental products. Personally, I’ve been an
artist, comedian, writer, pilot, event producer and much more. But all of that
was “winning” against myself. But that same drive and zeal never pushed me to
compete against others. When I was a program manager, I worked hard to make my
product as good as I can, rather than just win market-share, and in my life, I
worked to do well in my endeavors and not “win” against others. In my social
life, I also never looked for wins. Even if a person in my life argued with me,
I would often discuss or argue, but it was always just to educate and learn
rather than a simple “win”.
The question
still is WHY, and to this day, I don’t know. Perhaps some therapy or hypnosis
might reveal the answer. I’m quite curious. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter much
as this has never hurt me in any way (and probably has been to my advantage, as
I believe people might like me less if I was always competing). I guess I’ll go
to my grave not knowing.
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